Are you going to counseling yourself? I think these are thorny questions and professional help might really help you clarify the issues and your feelings about your H. It sounds like the way things were/are between you is now unacceptable to you--you have a whole list of major dissatisfactions about your H's behavior. Perhaps with the help of a therapist, you could establish firm boundaries for what you would and would not tolerate in a renewed relationship. If your H is willing to try to meet those, through individual therapy, marriage therapy, or whatever self improvement efforts he can muster, then perhaps the marriage could last longer. I am not getting the sense, though, that your H is interested in prolonging the relationship.

This would be a deal breaker for me. In my book, any person who beats animals is scum. Sorry.

Best of luck.