Hi, Limbo, welcome to PsychCentral (PC).

Wow! You have it tough supporting all that. Can you get some counseling for yourself and figure out a bit of a plan for yourself? It's wonderful that you are so supportive, but there is a limit; no individual should put their own health under such stress but for so long before other arrangements should be made.

Can you call her counselors, talk to them at all on your own? You are concerned, she is your wife. You don't have to know details but you do have to get a sort of time frame?

One thing I would do is maybe sell or rent the house, if possible, move to a smaller space that you could maintain on your own, get rid of some monetary worries if you can. If she's in her own place and you're not receiving any money, then I'd make arrangements to fix the cost situation.

How long have you been married? Were there any indications of her problems before you married?