Great thread.

I agree that it depends on the T's reaction. My last T, I told her I sometimes smoked pot, and she kept blaming the pot for my social anxiety. I also told her I was worried that I lied about past abuse, like how could you ever know if your memory was right, and she got it in her head that I was a liar and kept bringing up that I could ask for forgiveness for lying, etc. Ugh! This reinforced my fear - "I lied about abuse, it didn't really happen" - and made me feel even guiltier for not apologizing! She obviously had no experience with survivors - just because I fear that I lied, doesn't mean I actually lied.

I don't regret telling my current T anything. Sometimes I regret it immediately after, but then she always reacts in exactly the right way. And I breathe a sigh of relief..