[quote=Perna;1362243]Hi, Limbo, welcome to PsychCentral (PC).

We have been married 3 years this summer but we have been lived together 10 years . As far as if there were any warning signs ... well at the time I didnt think so ...but now in hindsight ...yes . She had been feeling ill and at times just seemed to want to keep to herself or was tired and laying down all the time . I never thought she would just up and leave and not talk to me though .

In the time since she first left ( Nov 09 ) it has become apparent that she feels she cannnot talk about her feelings and when she feels stress she just seems to "take the easy way out" and leave and then apologize later .

The home situation ... well we have to see how this develops , I am soon to be 2 months behind on the mortgage . My wife says the mortgage company will try and work with me ( the mortgage is only in my name) as they have so many foreclosures they do not want more ..I donno ... guess I will find out . I have a loan due soon from my 401k that a large portion of went to help the wife with buying her car , looks like I will may to default on that. Right down to my charge card that she maxxed out and now I have to cover since she says she doesnt have any $$$ coming in . Never , did I think the person I love and had counted on would throw me under the bus like this .