hi moose,

hope you are hanging in there ok. what a terrible thing to have happen. i don't know what i'd do if i was in your shoes, but i think at the very least - you don't need to be making decisions about the material stuff right now. i think it's easy to focus on that (i do the same thing) because it's something you have control over and can take action on, but for now i'd say it's better to wait. keep it in the drawer for now and focus on yourself and getting through.

i agree with rainbow, the "i'm busy" excuse seems lame. i don't think it's hard to find time to make a phone call, and if it's someone you want to talk to - you can make the time. (unless you know that your they are getting a busier schedule or that something legit is going on, something that makes sense with the story.) anyway, i'm not saying all this to make you feel bad.. i'm trying to say it seems like something else is going on - something not related to you at all. perhaps something happened with someone else they we're treating/talking to? if they we're sending you gifts, perhaps they we're sending someone else gifts, and the boundries got blurred. are you able to ask for more explaination? does it seem in-keeping with their personality/what you know of them to act like this? if not, i'd say it's definitely related to something else. from an outsiders perspective, it definitely seems that way.

hang in there, and know that you are capable of getting through this. and yes, you can post more here - there are nice people that will help you through.