Dear one. Your story is so so difficult. I urge you to seek professional help to deal with all this. From what you are saying I think:
-you probably suffer from PSTD and that has affect on your health, state of mind and emotions as well as the way you relate to your son
-you are dealing with terror, abuse, neglect, discounting, blackmale, stalking, manipulation, dread, fear, rape, etc... Even if some of these do not happen now - you are still dealing with this now. I am so sorry. Can you see how your dad has you captive and stalks you like that guy?
-you want the best future for you and for your child but you will not have that as long as you are at your dad's house. please find a women shelter or another alternative to keep you safe and away from further harm.
-your father's emotional abuse is horrific. What a low way to be. I wonder - did he ever sexually abuse you (I am sorry if this question is off the mark...)
-you are being a good mother. YOu are doing everything you can to protect and care for your son. This is excellent! And well done!! Now - take the next step to move away from that unhealthy and damaging environment.
-Was your kidnapper ever sentenced in court?
-I am proud of you that you stand your ground now. But really to stand your ground means to move away from hurtful and damaging people. As long as you are there you are letting them have the power over you and your son, you are letting them call the shots.
-No wonder you have dreams of falling teeth. You must be so scared and terrified. I am sorry. Please speak to a therapist to digest all this and keep a healthy state of mind.
-in terms of time line - when did you meet your husband in relation to your kidnap?
-Is your husband loving and caring towards you and baby boy?

I hug you sweet one and please keep safe. YOu are in my thoughts x