1. before I was integrated if I switched at all in my therapy sessions my therapist did nothing different than if I was not dissociated. she said this was because my alters took care of me all my life so there was no reason to believe different just because I was in therapy. because I had this protection measure of having alters there was no reason for her to try and "get me back" she said DID people naturally come back on their own to being grounded when they are ready to. She said it would actually be useless and a waste of time trying to coax me back to being grounded if I wasn't ready to remain grounded on my own. she used the saying you can lead a horse to water but you cant make them drink. She could give me the skills needed but she could not force me to stay aware or come back if i wasn't ready to do that.

2. no my therapist believes that I would know what I needed to know on my own when it was time for me to remember. she said imagine someone telling you. that you have gone through the most horrific things and you told all about it, it could lead to lots of embarrassment, denial, guilt, and upset. remembering things on my own wasn't going to me easy but it would be in my own time at my own pace not her forcing it upon me. there are still things my therapist knows about me that I dont remember myself and thats fine with me because I agree with her. I would rather remember in my own way and time.

3. no. my therapist does not believe in getting mad at her clients DID or not. she never raises her voice nor shows any other anger towards me or my alters. we have disagreements but never inflicting anger and madness, she says abuse survivors have gone through enough where others have used their being mad/angry in wrong ways. they don't need it from their therapists too.