I'm sorry you are feeling so distressed.

People who diminish others would do that to anyone. They fall within the stream of life of people. There are those who do that to others. They feel diminished inside of themselves and project that on to others because they can't tolerate that feeling inside of themselves. Then when they project it on to someone else, they hate that person but in truth it is self hate. Not that this helps the sadness and distress that you are feeling but the truth is that it has nothing to do with you what these people do and say. If you accept what they say as real, then you are believing something that is not true-it's make believe on their parts, a fantasy. It's just a projection of their own self hatred and diminished self esteem and an absurd assumption on their parts.

Know that you are separate as each of us is in real life and that you are not the other person who makes up stuff about you.

You only lose when you you lose your mind meaning when you give up what you know about yourself. Choose to not do that to yourself.

You'll include someone in your life at your own pace and when you are ready. If you need help with that, then seeing a psychotherapist may be useful to try to understand more about the things that frighten you. But that would be your own choice too.

- Claire


quote=timeforsleep;1362833]im 31 years old and im stil the same loser who got picked on in school it never ends![/quote]