I have never been in an abuse situation. But I have been to both male and female therapists and have no problem with either gender. To me, it's whether I can build a rapport with them, and whether I think I can trust them. It has nothing to do with whether they're male or female.

FYI - I am 52 and grew up in the generation where all doctors were male, so that may have something to do with my willingness to accept male therapists.