I think it will depend on the individuals state of mind after the incident, how they feel about men, the fear of judgment, etc.
My therapist (who I've seen for 12 years) is a woman and I feel more comfortable talking to her, but it may also because she met one of my abusers first hand, I don't have to explain things. I have seen male professionals before, and with some topics I have no problem, but when it gets really touchy I do feel uncomfortable. Not just out of fear of judgment, but because I feel, I don't know, 'gross'. I am uncomfortable being alone with men in general so it kind of fuels it.
My advice would be that no matter what is said, even if it is something that is offensive to you, hold your judgment. Don't take it as a full attack, because sometimes things that are said aren't 'meant'. I don't talk about certain feelings of my own because of backlash. But I know that the way I feel isn't necessarily what I KNOW. It's like it's an instinct for me to feel certain ways in certain situations and it makes me feel as though I actually believe it to be true. When I get judged or presume I'm getting judged I feel like such a terrible person for something I can't exactly help.
I hope that helps slightly...
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