Hello All:

I am new here and absolutely delighted to have found this forum!

Okay I have quite the ordeal going on here for some time now. For some reason it is really hitting me bad today as I have been up
all night crying. PMS I suppose.

Here is the situation in a nutshell:

My mother became very ill during the month of January and was in ICU, thankfully she overcame her illness and is now back to good health. My father never called to let me know she was in the hospital, he did not want to speak with me, so had my uncle call me, pathetic. But they tell me 2 days after she is in critical condition.
Anyhow since my mother has been in the hospital my father has been creating problems for us. When I went to visit mom, he seemed very jealous of our (mine and my husbands) interaction with her, and bringing her a card and gift. Anyhow out of the blue he jumped off the sofa and started at me, meanwhile my mother is trying to get well.
He said he is the only one who has done anything for her or ever has, then he calls me every horrendous, hideous, sickening name in the book you can mention, degrading, and disgusting. So then he tells us to get the hell out of the house. He threw my husbands coat at him and the zipper hit his retina, his eye is okay, thank God. Anyway it looked like he was going to get physical with me, so I stepped back toward my husband. Hubbie was afraid of my father, he never saw him get this angry before, and my father was ready to take him on. Dad wouldn't stop with the insults to me, my mother was telling him to stop the yelling. Mother seemed somewhat frightened, she wanted us to stay, but did nothing to defend us, as always she is my father's enabler, although this time she truly was too weak to fight back.
Anyhow months have gone by, and now he is calling my brother to harass him about the situation, and now my brother is calling me to harass me about it, telling me I am making things very sad for myself with Dad.
Keep in mind I am 39. Growing up my father battered me with a belt from the time I was 16 on, and a big thick strap of a belt, I have the scars to prove it.
We had made progress in the past 10 years, me basically tolerating a lot of #####, and keeping a lid on it, not a good thing for me I know.
But it is getting to me now. I have been so angry and distressed, I have trouble sleeping, and at a loss what to do.
At least I haven't given in by seeing them, or calling them. Mind you I send mother's day cards, gave mom gifts at hospital, and at their house, and sent my father a birthday card, no thanks, no nothing. Sent the birthday card to him 2 weeks ago, and he is calling my brother and trying to turn him against me.
Anyhow my other problem is my aunt (whom I love dearly) lives around the corner from them, and he visits and just drops in when he feels to usually on the weekend, the only time I can make it down there is Saturday and Sunday it is a 2 hour drive and I work during the week, and have a very responsible job, that entails lots of overtime.
Oh yeah, and he is brining this trouble to them as well, even though
my uncle had a triple bypass surgery two weeks ago. My aunt and uncle are afraid of him, that I know, and can't seem to tell him not to come over, so I can visit. It is so hard because when I go to see them, i never know if he will be over, because he makes himself welcome.
So as you can see I am having a real b$*( of a time these days.
I have always been a good daughter, treat people with respect and that is what I get.
Anyway I love my brother but they are getting him to call me and harass me with this crap, this is getting to be too much.
Good thing I have call display, he has been trying to call me constantly.
Even though I have ignored them and not called or visited for 3-4 months and stuck to what I believe is right, and not take their crap, they are getting everyone else to harrass me. I am proud that I managed to stay away from them for so long it's what I believe they deserve, however I am still getting flack. I guess I have rid them of their narcissistic supply and they are livid.

Sorry for rambling on, I am not feeling good right now, so please bear with me.
My relationship with my brother has always been a close loving one, and now my folks are trying to ruin that relationship, as well as others I am sure. Very sad.

Any feedback you have would be absolutely appreciated.

Many thanks in advance.

Any feedback you have would be absolutely appreciated.

Thanks
Sadeyedlady