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Old May 03, 2010, 02:15 AM
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(((((( TrinityDancer ))))))

You deserve this kind of therapist as do we all or perhaps even better.

It also is a reminder to all of my parts that when someone has many of these 'traits' working for me on my behalf that I need to care for myself as much, if not more.

At age 19 I did not have this kind of therapist, he actually abused me. This therapist also introduced me to my husband. I can only say that this experience of meeting my husband via him, is at the present time, causing me to feel very disturbed and crazy and that is probably why I reposted this thread.

It wasn't straight forward but it wasn't until 20 years later that I was able to find therapist(s) that had these 'good traits' and that is where I was able to reveal this information. Probably that is why I am bringing the thread forward for myself too and for others who may want it. I only wish things had not happened that way. I want it to go away, be different, disappear, etc but instead I am finding I have to say that he groomed me and set me up and I really feel badly used and even unclean. I try to find the two sided coin in these events but it will take a bit more work. In order to get healed the list of 'traits' above remind me that NOW I care about me and I never have to let it happen again and I can have the strength to turn the situation into a winning one for for me.

I also find that many of the 'traits' listed are in those people here on this forum and I am eternally grateful for their support.

Please don't give up hope of finding someone TrinityDancer. They really do exist. Also, I hope it doesn't cause envy at all TrinityDancer but shows the intensity of care we all deserve. I know I have received very much in the way of healing from past traumas but I do not remember in this case 'how' this healing happened in my cognitive mind. Now this bothers me. I don't know if I am a part or what! I am trying to figure out why if the feelings are stronger I cannot actually remember what that connection was. I think I was put somewhere, if you know what I mean.

I am not saying that my therapists have all these traits or even most of them but it is my way to address or write about my current issues and remember. I wish I could speak about them is a less round-about-way or deal with them with more clarity but I hope to someday.

Respectfully
and with safe hugs,
Hunny

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Last edited by Hunny; May 03, 2010 at 02:49 AM.
Thanks for this!
anderson