Hi, I've done a lot of reading on a lot of sites & I can't find information on reducing bpd violence. I need to know how to avoid triggering someone's rages.

I know he doesn't really want to hurt me yet something will upset him & he will lose control in a flash. When he's in that place, he believes God wants him to kill me for my sins & has come close.

When he regains control, he's appalled by his actions & wants to kill himself & has come close.

I can never predict exactly what's going to set him off, however we have developed some coping skills.

"Don't believe everything you think!", he trys to remind himself, &
"You don't have to hate as strong as you love!" He wrote each phrase down the first time he heard me say it. They have gotten him past a particular trigger sometimes.

I get so scared when I see his control slipping & then his face & everything about him will change. I'll see that other man loathing me! Then I just pray to stay alive until my friend comes back again.