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Originally Posted by Tatyana2009
Hi, I am with you all the way Marjan! I have a 'dont go there' policy if:
-a guy has a naked pic
-a guy has a pic with another woman (does not matter who she is)
-a guy has a pic with folded arms (this is a sign of agression to me)
-a guy put in free text something about traditional role responsibilities
-older than 43 and younger than 33 (my own preference)
-divorced with kids (been there done that, no thanks)
-and obviously anyone from out of the country (I get so many from Moroco, South America, etc)
I may have forgotten something. I will also be very careful about a guy if:
-he says he is laid back and easy going (I read somewhere that many abusive men describe themselves as such. And if he is not abusive I just think its a rather empty statement...)
-he says he likes clubbing (at our age I am not sure how that sits with having a family and being in a committed relationship... - talking about maturity...)
-he says he likes a girl who is low maintainance...
-he says that you have to be able to make him laugh (what is that all about? I am not a clown or a comedian...)
-he says he is looking for fun time
-he says he is looking for a woman to rub his back at the end of the day (doesnt that make you sick??)
And my list probably does not stop there. So you see how my options and possibilities have really narrowed....
Sameera - I actually came across a profile of a guy who said he is not good at much, he is lonely and looking for a mate, someone to save him from him mess and he is not sure what he is looking for. I am not sure - maybe it was a joke but the whole thing just made me cringe...
I also came across a guy who started a chat. Polite guy, asked me what I am looking for etc... we talked for about 15 mins and then he asked me what is my dress or bra size. I was so amazed. He did not even tell me his name... So I asked for his name and told him to get lost.
Another guy emailed me something short and meaningless like 'last chance' and I did not reply. 20 mins later I got another email from him saying 'you are such a time waster, dont reply'
So - there are so many messed up people on there and I really dont think I will find someone online... But who knows. I will try another month since its so hard meeting new people. Marjan - if you ever come to London we can go out for sure!
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LOL....I love your list.....That's my list too....I didn't think about folded arms....but that's so true....
and so true...the guy who is at our age and still wants to go clubbing, what's that about? The guy that I used to date last year and I got so much tension and stress our of that relationship was into dancing and clubbing....dancing was okay for me, because I'm a dancer, but every week, couple of times to be in the club....OH NO....it was fun at the beginning, but then it was all fight...he didn't even want to go out with me to my friends' parties, because he wants to go to the club....what is that? even saying it now, I get angry....
and the guy with couple of kids, just separated....nooooooo.....I've been there and I know what it is.....It's so complicated, and a big drama and I'm not a baby sitter....they need to finalize their marriage first before getting into the online dating....and they should go with a woman who has kids then they have mutual understandings....that's my opinion....I don't want to offend anybody on the site really....sorry, up front!
I think you are very smart and selective....so, don't be discouraged....there are some good guys on the site too.....It's just matter of luck and being wise to what we choose....good luck to both of us
and sure, if I come to London, I would love to meet you
I've been there last November.....you never know probably this summer....my sister lives one and a half hour away from London....
take care and thanks for sharing your experience with us....
Marjan