Moosetracks,

Here are our answers to your questions:

1. Many times our C asks us who should be "in charge" when we leave so he knows who to call out when it is time to go. It doesn't always work out that way, but it is a start. Our C doesn't insist on our host being out when we leave, but he does insist that whoever leaves has to be able to drive (so obviously not a younger/little) and know about social rules and appropriate behaviours.

2. If we switch during session and whoever our C was talking to and doing therapy with does not remember, he usually tells that person or has someone tell that person what went on. Our C is great and he lets us email him in between sessions and he will let us ask questions about what we don't remember and he responds to us. He doesn't ignore important things about us or our sessions.

3. Our C has never gotten mad at an alter or our host (and believe me some of us have done some really strange and inappropriate things in sessions). He always responds to us with kind words and hugs. He has never raised his voice or gotten upset with us. In fact he has even tried to combat our negative feelings when we have gotten upset at ourselves and he tries to explain why some of us behave the way we do. He has been nothing but a kind, gentle, caring man; the complete opposite of most all the other men we have encountered.

I hope this helps you Moosetracks. We have almost been in therapy with our C for a full year. That is the longest any C has ever "stuck" with us before. We hope that you have as great a C as we do. We were extremely luck to find him. Hugs when safe.

Faith