thanks the thing about working out the muscles analogy really helped... cuz its true. this is what I like about PsychCentral, the ppl I'm around everyday don't seem to understand and I am encouraged that ppl are willing to be so helpful on this online community!! afterall, I'm a new member. thanks again.
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A bird doesn't sing because it has all the answers, it sings because it has a song.
Maya Angelou.
so sing. Jazz, sing. --jazzy123456
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