By the sound of it, bipolar or not, he is abusive.

Please read these books - it will help so much in understanding whats going on: 'Why does he do that' and 'the verbally abusive relationship'.

The car thing - is so familiar to me. When my ex reached the peak of his abuse (just before i left) he did not let me use the car. One day he even told me that he has checked the miles on the car before I took it and after I came back and it shows I ve gone 60 miles where I said I ve gone 6. I was so shocked and worried at that point. I have never lied to him before and indeed went 3 miles to the station that night and 3 miles back to the house to drive a friend of mine. He claimed I lied and drove her to the airport. Its this sort of abusive behaviour that makes you feel angry, sad, hurt, confused, and like there is no way of dealing with it.... He used to take the car and when I needed it there was no petrol in it. He used to say that I lied when I said I put petrol in it. I think he is a sick man. And its this sort of things that make me hate him and never want to see him again.

He was name calling, discounting and undermining. There were episodes of loveliness between us but I think its important to remember that they only serve as a build up and part of the cycle of abuse.

Before I left he also said he wants us to split up. 2 days later he said he never said that and that I am inventing this.

Please please look after yourself and take care of yourself. Join a support group and talk to a T. I am here for you if you want to talk more xx