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Originally Posted by kitten16
Dfh, this description of your trust issues is super insightful. It's what I do too. I'm really impressed by how deeply you've explored this, and how well you express it.
And please don't think of it as you making a mess. Everything we do, even the counterproductive strategies we grasp at because we're hurting so much we don't know what else to do -- even those things, especially those things, arise out of an attempt to survive. I respect anything another person does to survive, even if it's harmful. The impulse is healthy, though the method may not be.
Now that you know what you're doing and why, you can change it. Give yourself a pat for getting to this point!  |
Thank you, kitten, that is so nice of you to say
If only it could all be so clear when it's happening. But as you're suggesting, hopefully awareness of these patterns is the first step towards change. ...and realizing how to know the difference when a situation really is dangerous, and when it's just those old demons haunting. It seems like T would be the one place where it's for sure okay to at least entertain the idea of dropping the guard, and letting the softy parts be exposed.
