Yes I too understand where you are coming from and sympathize with you.
My family are causing me great pain at the moment, and my brother is calling non-stop to bring mom and dad's dislikes to me, very dysfunctional. Thankfully Caller ID has been very helpful in these sad situations.
I have been avoiding all of them no calls, no visits and I feel much better doing so, I plan to keep to my resolve.
Hang in there and best of luck to you.

Sadeyedlady