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What do you think that your grandfather would want for you? for your family? Would he want you to continue mourning on this day, or do you think he would tell you to live the day to the fullest and make it count?

All those things that you would like to tell him, could you maybe write him a letter - even go and read it to him somewhere that you feel close to him.

Anniversary dates can be painful and difficult. Everyone experiences them differently. It's ok if you are remembering and you are sad, and it's ok if others are not showing it the same way that you are. If you tell them why you are sad, maybe they will tell you that they do feel it too, or share how they are experiencing and coping with this day.

I also wished that I had told my grandfather many things while he was alive. I wish I had learned more from him. Mine died about ten years ago, and I still do miss him. I am still working on learning some of the things that he did that I admired, that I would have liked to have learned from him and have had to find ways to learn on my own or find other teachers. When I learn the things my grandfather knew and did, I remember him and, I hope, honor him. I enjoy it too.