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Originally Posted by ceje
He's back for now. And is acting like nothing happened except for a few minutes of telling me why its my fault he explodes. Bs. I told him either go to the dr or I won't have any option but to take the kids and leave till he gets help. I don't know what else to do. I have tried to be supportive but its hurting not just me but the kids to live like this. He never does anything to them but they watch him do it to me and now our oldest is starting to be disrespectful to me. How did it get this bad the last 2 yrs have been horrible. And now I'm left trying to decide whether getting him help and staying or leaving him so the kids have a happier life. And can they when they worship their father they're going to hate me. I am starting to get depressed over everything.
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My opinion...I think that leaving and getting yourself and your kids into therapy is the best option at this point. It is definitely not good for them to worship someone who is abusive. The worst thing would be for them to grow up and then treat their spouses that way. You need to take care of yourself and your kids first...he needs to worry about himself if he is unwilling to seek treatment for his problems. No one is expected to be supportive of someone who won't even try to get help. Best of luck to you and yours!
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