Thanks for all your comments, they are helpful. No, I don't normally nitpick. It was just the getting close thing which of course is crucial to an intimate relationship. I really hoped it would become less obvious as I like him, but it hasn't. I think it's a basic pheremone thing. It's possible that better hygiene would have made a difference but I don't know if that's the problem, doesn't seem like it. I can't hassle him to wash more and then find out it's not the problem anyway. It seems ridiculous that this should get in the way of what otherwise would be a good match. I feel very guilty. What do you tell a person about something like this? I'm also so sad and depressed that I can't make this work.