I found it easiest to make a list too. "Separated" is NOT the same as divorced. "Open minded" usually means kinky sex.

I only went for coffee with men who said they were looking for friendship, not romance. Romance is a plus. Friendship is what you're really looking for. Never set out lookig for romance. You'll get desparate and make bad choices. Just see if there's someone who can hold an intelligent discussion over coffee and who doesn't make you feel creepy.

My fella had the name "booklover" which is what really started me looking. And we spend a lot of time talking about books and movies which we both love. Ya gotta be able to talk to the guy!

Be careful, but have fun!