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Originally Posted by SUNNY2009
This is a familiar feeling Granite1 .... I am sorry to hear that you are the one going to her rescue....I wish you all the strength you may need to get through the visit ... remember ... maybe you dont have to be there (like you said) ...Is there anyone else that could help her? sparing you from the turmoil you will feel inside?? While Im sure this option may have been explored, isnt there a friend who could help her? I only ask because I have been there sooo many times myself (40 yrs old) and up until the past year I would put myself through such Hell going to my own mothers home to help her....always putting my own self worth and love and needs on the back burner.... it is as painful an experience as any ... having to listen to someones angry insensitvie words and hurtful abusive ways .... You have got to get away from it..... for your own health for your own sake ....
I hope this doesnt sound pushy I just know how it feels and can relate.
Whatever you decide to do I wish you the best and I wish you the inner strength you need to make it through. Remember to love yourself  |
when my mother asked me to come and take care of her it was just a knee jerk reaction and i automatically said yes.not thinking but that has been what i always did.but never for this long the longest i have ever been alone with her sence i was 14 was 8 days.and it was hell.now it is for three weeks.but i do have to say my eyes are so more open to all this then they ever have been thanks to my T.boy she sa this dynamic a mile away but her answer to it was just please dont go it isnt good for you etc .but next time she asks im going to step back before i say anything and talk to people who are awayfrom the situation first .unfortunately it is a bit late for this time.as far as dealing with the mother is concerned.yes i can always get a flight home if i get to upset and i know that is an option.strange as it is i had to be told that
.and no you arnt being to pushy.i really do need to deal with all of this and being pushey is a way to do it.i can tend to be a bit resistant if you know what i mean.im just thankful i seem to have a lot of people here who care.