Thanks - in my head I know what you say is true...now if it would filter down to my heart....or at least the sensible part of me :-) I am so TIRED of the mind games and he is still playing them. Unfortunately, he had promised to help my son with a HUGE project - re-building the body of his jeep. My son bought the parts, has been doing as much as he could and viola...H stops showing up to help. Now I have a garage full of jeep body parts waiting to be welded, a jeep that you can't drive and a kid w/no car who is moving in 3 weeks to go back to college for the summer. Since I know that re-building cars like this is H's hobby, this little manuever is for the sole purpose of attacking me!!! I have not /and will not contac him - I am NOT going to feed his little "ego" or whatever. Unless someone out there has a different opinion or advice??!!

About the only thing that makes me smile or keeps me sane is the thought that even with his new gf - he must be one unhappy individual to keep playing these games considering he pretty much helped raise my son and is MUCH closer to him than any of the rest of the 5 kids - including his own!!! These are NOT the actions of a "VERY happy man" as he told me he was when he said he was not coming home!!!

Oh well - this too shall pass and I will figure out a plan B as always!!!

Fortunately, I have a good T and a WONDERFUL support group - which seems to be expanding daily!!! Once I heal from this I hope to be able to pay it forward and help / support others!!! After all I am so used to giving constant attention, I should be REALLY good at it

Again, thank you for your words of advice, they are much appreciated!