"With him screwing around, he will not look durring divorce. You can use this as leverage during your divorce procedings."

Hi - thank you for caring!! Can you explain what you meant by the above "will not look during divorce" look for what??? and how can that be used for leverage - I think I will need as MUCH leverage and strength as I can get - alot of his behavior at times, barely fits within the confines of being legal and certainly not morally right.

When we were dating he built (as a surprise for me) me a front porch - he has since threatened to pull off the front of my house since he "knows the weak points".

I also know I made him mad today bc I need an annual inspection on my house for the city and it is time sensitive. He has a friend with a business that specializes in what I need, (and has historically been who we have used) so I contacted the friend about what to do instead of my hubby. Did I mention I am NOT going to play his games!!! Now I can wait for the retaliation...wonder what it will be THIS time!

Our church has a total of 9 services at 3 dfferent locations - he informed me he will be attending the service that I do - this from a man who had quit going to church with me before he left!! Someone said I could switch services but I am NOT going to let him chase me away or intimidate me.

I may be in tears later missing the "better times" and scared of the future - but unless you have better advice or a different opinion, I don't know what else to do!!!

Question though - if I am so Devalued and forgotten about, why all the games??? When he was working with my son - it was during the day when I was at work and he was gone when I got home. He quit helping him on weekends when I would be home (I assumed he was just avoiding me since he knows or thinks that I want to see him). He has taken some inexpensive sentimental things of mine and won't give them back - actual divorce settlement will take care of those. Actually had a whole role of postage stamps go AWOL about 10 days ago when he was here with my son. I guess I have to try and remember by boys when they were about 3 years old!!!

AHHH - This is crazy!!!