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Wow!! Your post brought up many things for me also. I think it depends on the T... how I react to seating . I have three T's that I see on a semi regular basis. One is a behind the desk or table T, but her warmth and care have alway made the table nonexistant. Another T is an "up close & personal" T (NOT in an invasive way) We sit like friends discussing our life. She always hugs at the end of a session also. Third T, who I've seen the longest (15 years) began as cold and severe, became more and more warm toward me. He sits next to his desk, in a chair on wheels, so if I need space , he gives it. If I need more caring, he moves closer. All three of them feel "right" to me because of how they come across.
One nightmare T I saw only once comes to mind.... She showed me into her office and before I could get through the door, she told me "THIS is MY chair...You can sit on the couch or the other chair, BUT NOT my chair!" I couldn't move for the longest time and she never seemed concerned as to why. She also bolted the door as soon as I did sit down, which made me want to run.
I wish you felt comfortable talking to T about this cause maybe there was a reason instead of rejection. He should have handled it differently but it never hurts to find out the whole story before you decide to stop seeing him. Good luck.
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