We tend to be creatures of habit. And if we are also emotionally struggling, we have built-in needs/responses/thoughts that draw these people to us. It takes good therapy to break out of the cycle. I recently commented as much to my T a few weeks ago. more succintly, but that ppl who have this propensity, don't have a chance of breaking out without therapy... he agreed. So I guess... the recognition has to begin within, first?