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Hi Sugahorse,
I am learning coping skills from my T. We are together challenging my thinking patterns and hold them to the light: are they really true or not? How do I adjust them? What can I do?
I find it hard work, cuz a lot of them go back to my childhood (I am 41 now) and are interpretations of traumatic experiences. As a child you don't have the skope to oversee situations, traumatic or not, so you make your own beliefs and interpretations. Later in life we then respond according to what we believe, without being conscious of what that belief actually is. And without knowing if it is actually true. Or maybe it was true then, but not anymore, yet we continue to respond out of habit, unsconsciously. There is so much to it. Also we as BP have a different way of thinking and experiencing. Things 'come in' in a different way and are processed differently. So it is quite messy. But the work is worth it!
If you don't already have a T who is experienced in working with BP's, if at ll possible I suggest you find one. If you have one, how is it working for you?
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