I believe everything in my therapy is about "me" :-) just like in my dreams. So, I take what my therapist does as something useful to me and an opportunity to work on a situation from another point of view.

I'm glad you told him he sucked :-) and also glad you gave him a do-over and he sat in the same place and didn't open the discussion! We can't control everything in our lives, all we can do is respond to them, hopefully in a way that helps us learn and grow into being more ourselves.

I wouldn't take my T's actions in a wholly personal way; some of what a T does is "for" us but all of it is their doing so part of their life and 100% theirs. If I believe my T does not feel comfortable sitting close to me, like I want, I am okay with that because that's their issue, not mine. I see my job as being to make myself as comfortable in myself with whatever happens "out there" as I am able. I know and trust my T enough that I assume she is doing the best she can for me, by her understanding and training. That's enough for me. She's going to "miss" sometimes but I still give her full credit for trying.

Yes, it's your therapy and you can walk but what do you gain from that? You cannot ever control another person, even in your therapy with "your" therapist. Other people are and do what they are and do. Presumably your therapist knows himself well enough to know how he is most comfortable and does his best work. One cannot really challenge that because it is about another person's being.

When you mentioned the distance between you and he and how you cannot see him well because your eyesight isn't up to it; I immediately thought of psychoanalysis where the patient does not see the therapist at all, lays on the couch and the therapist sits up behind their head. I often have trouble with "seeing" other people and have to remind myself to do so, to accept that the other person knows themselves better than I can.

With my therapist, when she would do or suggest doing something in a way I didn't think was best for me, I would remind myself that I came to her for help and that she had helped many more people than myself. Too, she had helped them in "her" way whereas I had not been as successful helping myself :-) The clincher, for me though, was that I could go with her and do it her way and maybe it would take longer or be harder but would probably work, OR, I could go my way. . . by myself (and probably get lost as I did not yet know where I was going or wanted to go :-)

It sounds like he's been willing to discuss the mistake and accept the mistake of not discussing what he was going to do before he did it. I think I would accept that and try working his way as hard and as well I could, bringing all of myself in line with that effort.