I agree with you Salukigirl - it sounds like he's addicted to technology. I also worry about kids today as well. My girls have a good gaming system, computer and toys but the youngest will say "I'm bored". I think a little boredom and just being still/quiet is okay to do once in a while - we're such an 'instant gratification' society. I kinda miss the days before there were cells phones and computers in every home.

All the things your BF is engaging in, are solitary activities, where he's withdrawing inward. He might not even realize, how it's turned into this nasty habit. Hopefully your letter will get through to him.

I think he should set some guidelines and use self discipline - cut out or cut down those technology vices. It would be great if there was a spa you both could go to -where you're not allowed to bring any of those things including TV. I wonder what he would do if he didn't have those things even TV? Another thing that really worries me are the Ipods - I think anyone who uses them on a regular basis is injuring their ears. Think of the average teenager - how many hours in their teenage life do they have their earphones on? Hearing loss is accumulative so they won't notice it right away. When they 40 up, they'll begin to notice they can't hear as well.

When you're both in a good mood, I would propose a challenge - one weekend with no technology vices. What would he do? How much of real life he missing out of, just vegetating? When you describe your evening, it strikes me - you're together but he's not really with you in spirit. Good luck and I hope he realizes this has reached the dysfunctional stage.