He knows what was on the line, that I'd have to seriously consider if we are still a good fit. We have a rupture history, where I go back to that question.

But this is perhaps the fourth or fifth time when, in not minding his boundaries and then later enforcing them, he's caused a painful rupture. I'm tired of having to forgive this in my professional care giver. "My therapist hurt my feelings"

The T does not do this because that's a boundary, he will never reach out to me. So, it's entirely up to me to engage in repairing the relationship. I'm not going to go back just because I'm fond of him - he's not doing a good job, not meeting my requirements, not working in a fully professional way. (Not managing his countertransference?)