Sometimes I think the hardest losses are those that other people "just don't get". It seems easier for others to have empathy when there is an actual funeral and alot of time was spent with the loved one. Even when my fiance passed away, I could not believe that people would say "Cheer up". Cheering up was not what I needed! I needed to grieve in whatever manner I found helpful. Please do not let others dictate how you are supposed to feel. If you do, your depression will just come out in some other way. I say "of course you are sad after losing your baby and at the loss of the opportunity to be a mother".