but also a little nervous.

I had my first therapy session last week and the first "assignment" was boundary setting with my ex.

The first thing I did was say that I would drive to his house to pick up the kid's things at 1:00 on Friday (instead of waiting all day for him to call and then tell me he'll be here within the hour with their things, and then wait around for an extra 30 minutes because he's rarely here when he says). It backfired a bit because he was in the shower when I called and I told my son to have this things in the front seat of the truck so we could just drive over and get everything after school. He forgot to tell his dad. Still, I drove over there promptly at 1:00 and got everything.

Secondly, my daughter has her first meeting with a psychiatrist this week. My ex said that he would pick her up from school and take her and I didn't need to come (hmmmm, sounds like a repeat of the neuropsych visit where I "didn't need to be there" when I really should have been). This is my week with the kids and my daughter wants me to drive her there, not her dad. I e-mailed him saying that, per her request, I will be driving her there, and that I also want to hear from the doctor, herself, her recommendations to avoid any confusion. I didn't say anything about the previous appointment where I was told not to be there. I kept this a separate thing.

My stomach was in knots when I hit the "send" button, but it was something I had to do. I even said no reply was requested. He can't insist that I not be there, and I'm going to show up with or without his approval, so he doesn't need to take time to write a reply, and I don't have to wonder what he's going to say and when he's going to send it.