Err, counseling isn't supposed to get the person to avoid the stresses. It is supposed to do the opposite, teach them how to handle them, work through them and make things manageable so that they can live as normal a life as possible.

In fact anyone who has been to counseling should know very well that they tell you to stop avoiding things when your depressed. Thats the whole point, you learn to deal with things in life, gradually sure, but still.

If this counselor is teaching avoidance than they are doing more harm than any amount of good they may believe they are doing. All this will do is reinforce the idea that she can't handle normal married life at home. The reenforcement will make it so she really is less able to handle the stress and it will only get worse the more it happens.

Talk about the exact opposite approach from what you will learn in any psychology or psychiatry coarse.