Thanks Myers for your wonderful comments above.

I have an 11 year old son who has a blend of intermittent explosive disorder, opposition defiance disorder, ADHD .. and who knows what else. Does this put him into the category being called a psychopath. He is adopted at birth and there were drugs in the womb in the first 6 weeks. He is so abusive, threatening, and mean yet at times can be an ok kid. When the weather is stormy he is at his worst. He was aggressively threatening me with a hammer the other day and I called the police on him. Lots of verbal abuse from him.

He can be caring at times when he reads about someone's predicament. I am totally at odds on what to do. My x-wife and I feel totally abused by him, I am leaving soon for extended periods of time because I want to get a way, my x is a bit freaked out on what to do with him. He has threatened her that if we put him in a institution of some type he will come kill her when he gets out.

Insights from others are much appreciated.