You are among friends Belle. Please don't stop posting. You have gained much from talking so don't quit now. While I appreciate that you were flamed by the bluntness of Byz message a part of you may agree that your responses to Mark and the situation in fact are quite predictable. You have put yourself in a holding pattern waiting for Mark to give you answers. That makes your responses to him while you wait predictable if you get my drift. It doesn't mean I or Byz (though it isn't my place to speak for anyone but myself)... it doesn't mean that I can't support you through the time of waiting and hoping and processing everything as it happens. Being predictiable isn't necessarily a negative thing. It just describes a state of being in time. I think when we are holding on to love for good or for bad we all become quite predictable. Only you know if it is worth the holding on or know when it might be time to let go. Either way we support you Belle as a person we have come to care deeply about.

The support I and others here offer to you is unconditional and while sometimes I may be quite blunt with my observations.... they are just that..... my outsider observations. I hope you can appreciate that I care about you and your future happiness and yes I have formed an opinion about Mark and I do think you deserve so much more than he can possibly give you at this time in his life but I don't know him from Adam so my opinion is just an opinion for you to consider and weight in light of your own truth. Whatever you do I will be here to comfort you and love you and rejoice with you no matter what.

I think that is what all of us try to do for each other at PC and sometimes it can seem like a harsh slapp and sometimes it can be just the wake up call we needed to hear. It is often a question of timing more than it is the message itself. And time is a hard thing to judge. When is someone ready or willing to hear a contrary or provocative point of view? Tricky to know for sure. Either way you have to filter our comments through your own truth and put it into the context of your own place and time on your life's journey.

Anyways.... between my babbling I just want to wish you well and I hope you will continue to let us be here for you when you need to get it out of your head and rest among friends.