I dont think this is necessarily neglect (from a lawful perspective).

What you describe is emotional and perhaps also verbal abuse. It is very damaging and just like violence and physical abuse - it aims to exert power over you, control, manipulate etc and there is a misuse of power on behalf of the adult as the child relies on the adult.

For someone who lived all thier life with some form of emotional abuse it will be really hard some times to point the finger and say - yes, its wrong, its this and its that. This is because you get so used to it and you come to believe that is how things should be. It feels familiar. Saying it was wrong and you have been deprived of your basic needs and rights (!) (respect, safety, love, acceptance, security) - means you will grieve over all these things and have to deal with loads of feelings. You will also stand a chance at getting your self esteem higher and respecting yourself in a way that will make you whole.

I hope this helps.

There are books written about this if you are interested.

I am sorry for your hurt and loss.