Anjelmarie, my mom died last September so I understand about wanting to avoid the whole Mother's Day thing. Would it be possible for you to reframe the situation with your godmom so you can cherish still having her in your life?

As for going to the wake. Without stopping to think about it what's your first reaction to going - go or stay away? I'd go with your first response. That's usually a good indication of what we really want. We end up complicating things by over thinking them.