j, i took my childhood as an example that i didn't want my children to have. the fights, the abuse, the cussing, etc. that was the only way i can deal with what went on back then. i pride myself on how differently i turned out...i'm not perfect, but at least my life isn't like theirs was. and i didn't abuse my children and put them down constantly. hang on, you'll get through this. love, pat