Thank you for your replies (((((((((((((((everyone))))))))))))))))))

When I feel someone has turned nasty and rejecting it is hard for me to just stf up and go away. I have tried to work things out in the past, with bad results My "stupid fault" cuz if I had given the people enough space things would have been more likely to be ok eventually.
But when triggered I USED to do things I didn't mean to

(should I delete this post and run? probably ...)
But the other day I found a negative scenario developing and I just walked away. Progress....... maybe
(difference is I hardly knew this person or they me so it was kinda easy ..)

I need to sellotape my mouth shut in future..... stupid bear

I suck,
Fuzzy