i spoke to the police today over the phone and have decided not to persue this any further, the option is still open to me to ask for a copy of the videotape at a later date, if i want it.
my reasoning is if i see the tape and switch i will not get to see my son again this year, last time was in february, and if it ever gets to court they would have to show the video tape recorded interview of him as evidence of the attack, as i dont remember it the defence would pull me to pieces, i dont need that, not at all.

thank you kd and wantto for helping me make this decision, much apreciated.

simon