Thank you Angelfire, I have thought about what you are talking about for a long time before all of this even happened and all I can do is work on what we are going through righ now because I don't want to leave. Neither of us want to break up for more reasons than just our kids! As things go now they are good. I am very proud of how far we've come thus far, it's been about 3 weeks and we have fought less durring this time than we have in a long long while! So I am optimistic, we have been spending time togeather as a family and he has been able to open up emotionally and I have not been so angry and trying to be more of a positive person. Thank you everyone for carring and reading what I have written here! I will keep you updated.