I think you got a lot of good advice from the others and thought I would add my thoughts as well. I moved to the city I live in now with my exboyfriend. He was not from here either. He also preferred not to go out. I stayed with him for many years and was very unhappy (especially after I moved away from everyone I knew). I was so miserable and cried all the time. Then, I met another man who I knew instantly was the love of my life, my soul mate. I left my boyfriend for him. It was an awful breakup. When I left, he did not want to let me go and did everything in his power to prevent it. But, I did leave and eventually married the other man. I am lucky that I found someone who helped me break away. Please use whatever strenght you have and get out of this relationship. It does not sound as though it is good for you at all. Even if you are recreating the past, you can break that if you want to. Take care.