Hi, shaggy dog, welcome to PsychCentral (PC).

I think it was pretty common for you to dream of your mom and aspects of the relationship since you were probably thinking a lot about that over the mother's day week? I kind of like that you both had the hurt feelings; if it were my dream that would remind me how alike my stepmother and I were, even though we had trouble getting along. My stepmother was pretty controlling when I was growing up but I came to learn through therapy that that was because she was basically anxious, like I was. She had a pretty scary life in many aspects and tried to make things go the way she wanted and understood. Of course we fought, because I was wanting the same thing for my own life.

I gathered from your last comments that you didn't tell your mom you were sorry very often? My mom and I would usually always make up but then argue again over and over.