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Originally Posted by garden
I value the feedback I get and have a question. I am surrounded by people who exhibit traits of confiding, hoping to have someone reciprocate, then relating all to another as if a game. I draw them like flies.  I've mentioned the backbiting and childishness. I had someone mention to me that I was not coping; which brought about some thought on my part. My question, what makes the "negative" behavior so acceptable to others? Or, what would I gain in coping with negative behavior? Or, better yet, WOULD becoming a negative person (crossing over to the otherside) help me to cope? I don't mean to offend anyone in asking or exposing; just clarity. Thanks |
Negative people bring you down to their level. Find new friends. Be up front when people are negative, let them now how you feel about being negative to others. You'll find that those same people will be saying negative things about you when you are not around. Negative people have low self-esteem.
Walk away from it at work, or anywhere. Coping??? It's your life, why should you have to cope? There are plenty of positive people out there, and they will become your true friends. Negative people are usually not successful, and if they are, they have no true friends, even their spouse.
Your better than they are, stick to your principles.
Best, Jerry