Fartraveler, if you do what she says and don't call, and just go to your sessions and have her always be there, you will get positive reinforcement from her reliable behavior, and your need to check will probably ease. The first time will probably be the very hardest.

I don't interpret her request that you not check on her to mean she doesn't want to see you. I think she is trying to help you.

I used to check on my PNP before almost every session. I started this because early on we had some miscommunication about session times and were getting our wires crossed. (I would write down 10 am as the appointment time and she would write down 10:30--stuff like that). So it started being easier to just verify the morning of the appointment or the day before, when I would be seeing her. I usually sent a short email, "see you today at 3 pm." At some point, after she showed she could reliably keep an appointment as we had agreed, I did start trusting her more and stopped this email verification. She's been doing really well for the last year or so, and my need for verification has eased. I think early instances of our not connecting on the appointment time created this behavior in me of checking, and when she altered her behavior to being more reliable, I was able to change my behavior too. Fartraveler, I wonder if you had some appointment time snafus early in your relationship that has caused you to always check with her?