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Originally Posted by rainbow8
tree, I DO tell him, but I don't feel like he really cares. I talk to him a lot, and he asks me why I am telling him! Not about therapy, but other things like things that happen at work. I think that's why I like PC so much. People CARE and respond to me. That's why I like therapy so much too. My biggest need is is to be heard, to KNOW that people care enough so I know I'm not invisible. Like in my thread. I posted that I had a great session, but then my thread went off page 1. It makes me feel like I'm not cared about. I KNOW that's not true, and I realize I need to discuss this in therapy. Honestly, it just came up while thinking and writing this thread!
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I think it is a guy thing, not that all guys are like this but many are. I often say I need a wife, because honestly, i think I could have a more emotionally intimate relationship with a woman. Having said that, my hubby does listen more than it appears. He hears me, although often doesn't get it. I am used to talking away and hubby will be doing something else, not focused on me or what i am saying. He doesn't understand the need I have to talk, because he doesn't have that need. I think men and women are wired differently, or brought up to behave differently.
My hubby never asks about therapy. I don't talk about my therapy at all to anyone (except here and to a close friend who is also in therapy). I don't want to. Once I did tell my hubby about one particular trauma, and he surprised me by listening attentively and responding in a caring, protective manner. I was very surprised. I know he cares.