I quit a lot of things because I think I won't do well enough.

I also quit things if I've bitten off more than I can chew. I find that if I untangle myself from some obligations and take some time to retreat, I can beat back the anxiety a bit. Then I have more to give to the things I keep in my life.

The problem is that it's hard to know which one I'm doing in the moment, or which one I'm doing more if both motivations are present.

I don't want to sell myself short. I want to try to do the best I can. It helps me when I realize I tried my best to accomplish something. And I always, always regret it if I let my fears win. (and maybe beat myself up about it too much)

But I also tend to try to do too many things at once. I am learning to stop saying yes to everything, because it takes a lot of time and energy to fight the anxiety. If I don't fight it, it ends up overwhelming every part of my life.

I am trying to make a decision now, and I don't know whether my reasons for quitting are good or if I'm rationalizing so I don't feel so guilty about quitting. How can I figure it out?