It is interesting to take a look at one's self and think about how you come across -- or what traits seem desirable in other people. I used to be either one of two ways; when I was tired or depressed I would come across as weak or a doormat. When I was feeling stronger I could come across as cold and *****y, since I was able to put up a defense. I think now I'm trying to be much more honest with who I really am. Not easy, though.
Since we are on the subject of TV...
One person who's traits I admire is Mike Holmes from "Holmes on Homes" on HGTV. He is tough, but caring - he comes across as honest and patient but not willing to take any cr*p... Like he expects people to live up to the golden rule, because it's just the right thing to do. I guess I'd like to emulate him. Tough and caring.